Friends > Good friends > Establishing BGR > Marriage > and maybe divorce.
And sometimes it moves from:
>Boi says to gal: Wanna Fuck?
>Gal: Sure! *Shy* hehe!
The latter is what people often call one night stands. My friends and I call such relationship FFFFF, F5. (Friends, fuck, fuck, fuck, forget). Therefore, what description more apt than “soul mate” since it bypasses the possibilities of marriage and the temporariness of F5s?
Anyway, one thought remains prevalent in my mind, which is the issue of having a soul mate who clubs and fucks. Forgive my crudeness, I just thought that it rhymes as well as it goes hand in hand. Wait a minute, shouldn’t it be, drinking and smoking which should go hand in hand with clubbing? Yes I know, I’m a typical, stereotypical bastard. So sue me. Thankfully, I do know girls who clubs just to dance, who do not drink, smoke or fuck around. I’m still entitled to my own viewpoint nonetheless. From a broader perspective or a bird’s eye view, going clubbing just to dance, though it may seem a perfectly innocent reason to club, does not compliment the ideal of being perfectly decent, juxtaposing the rationale that stealing food to feed your starving family, though a good intention does not make you a perfectly good person.
As for me, I admit that I was once a frequent clubber, and I did enjoy the momentary pleasure it invokes. Also, I did notice that the frequencies of females who club, are generally more interesting, more outgoing, more intelligent and dress better, as compared to the norm (all depending on which club you go to). To me, those are good assets to have. Unfortunately it gives rise to the paradox of want. In which, I want “more” of my soul mate yet I do not want her to club. Sad to say, I find it difficult to will both instances simultaneously because to want more, is to have less. I read in an ex-classmates blog and he relates this to the stigma of social idealism versus social reality.
As to why I’m against finding a soul mate who clubs, here are two of my main reasons:
- Less chances of her fooling around. I opine that it is easier to place my trust in a girl who does not club.
- Less chances of her getting unwillingly taken advantaged of. (I mean come on. Which boyfriend in the right frame of mind would like his girlfriend’s buttocks or wherever to be touched by hormone raging perverts or ahnehs other than him, himself?)
I would like to highlight the irony of “getting unwillingly taken advantaged of.” –
Since, one would know the chances of being unwillingly touched while clubbing is highly probable and when one makes the decision to club, one is willingly risking the chances of being molested. Hence the word “unwilling” contradicts itself in this notion. To put it in a different approach, one cannot will an event from happening, and another event from not happening, if both events occur simultaneously. To will one event to happen is to will both. My friend Evan, describes such girls as sluts, hoes or used tissue. I'd rather put it in a less obscene manner and describe these party girls as "girls looking for a good time."
In a nutshell, I have decided NOT to compromise my standard of my soul mate of NOT falling into the category of "girls looking for a good time" with the exception of the occasional over-excessive infatuation that I may face. Would lust be a better word in place of infatuation? I can't really tell the difference. Than again, infatuations usually never last for me. If by now you have read to this point and happen to be a clubber, don’t hate me. I like you the same as before. After all, I do honestly enjoy clubbing and the only difference is that I’ve made the decision not to club... with certain exceptions of course. :)
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