Fragile

People are so fragile. When we face emotional turbulence lose all composure. We fail our examinations, we feel like failures. We cry, we feel scared, anxious and worrisome. We feel useless, stupid and rejected. What really bothers me is why we feel that way. How did we even grow up with that ideologies instilled in our heads?

I believe in the greater good in people. I wish people could just believe that in themselves.

Since when does failing make you a failure? When we were a child and embarked on the stage of learning how to walk, we all fell. But we got up. And we fell. And we got up. But I don’t’ recall myself getting up ruffled up and EMO over falling. When I was in primary school my dad first bought me a 2 wheel bicycle and taught me how to ride the bicycle, I fell and I got up and fell again but I enjoyed every moment of it. To me life is a learning process. Can’t we adopt these childlike learning attitudes into our adult learning years?

Here’s another thing that bothers me. When friends (you) say (said) something like this to me:

“Mok! You don’t understand since you don’t fail like me and ALWAYS get good grades. I study so hard and still fail. I feel so stupid”

Since when did I ALWAYS get good grades? I fail in my examinations like everyone. I study hard and I still fail. I’m not some E=MCSQUARE Einstein and I do feel little foreign and distant when you say things like that to me. Look at me. I’m just as human as you. I face emotional turbulences just like everyone else. I checked my grades today through the school’s student portal. Guess what I got?

Want a clue? The moment I saw it a big smile stretched across my face. Know why? I got NN for my financial accounting. NN is a fail grade btw. Ironic isn’t it. It’s the crappy grade. It’s the grade failures get. It’s the grade useless people and stupid people get. I KID YOU NOT! Do I, the alien, not understand how YOU feel? You just don’t see my crying and wallowing in self pity and here’re some of the reasons why.

REASON ONE

I believe that when you fail, you face a crossroad of 2 choices. You can choose to be the victim, of the victor. Same situation and same circumstances but 2 difference choices.

The victim blames. Common everyday excuses include:

“The lecturer sucks.”
“Not enough time to study”
“The lecturer did not teach everything he ought to have taught”

I have heard these excuses countless times and I’m so sick of it. Though these reasons may be true, blaming things that are outside your control will not improve your grades. Everyone ought to instead first take responsibility for their actions before criticizing external factors. When I say take responsibility, I do not mean putting yourself down and calling yourself stupid and useless. I’m saying that you should do something constructive to benefit yourself.

For example, instead of assigning the blame on the lousy lecturer for your poor grades, since during the 3-4 month period, you as the student know that the lecturer blows, have you put in sufficient and adequate effort on your part to make up for the lousy lecturer?

What about the victor? He learns.
”I study so hard and still fail. I feel so stupid” --------- FUCK THIS!

It should instead be “I study so hard and still fail, I must be using the wrong method of studying.”
Or “Maybe I should study smart instead of study hard”

In so doing, you will learn new methods of studying and improve yourself in the process. When you put yourself down by calling yourself stupid and useless, you leave yourself no room for improvement. After all, what is the cure for stupidity? It is like Aids. There is NO CURE!

Me? I choose to be the victor. What about you?

REASON TWO

Its late, I’m tired I will update this another day and hopefully correct whatever needs to be corrected.